Archive for February, 2012

Got Sale?

This is a little late, I wanted to get it out during the Valentine’s sensation, but I got behind.  (Be nice Russell!)

Ever notice how many sales there are, I mean come on Macy’s got the corner on the Wednesday sales; and every other store has it on the weekends.

Probably Christmas and Valentine’s, especially the phenomenal sales of Black Friday (Thanksgiving weekend – just for you non shoppers).  But wait it doesn’t stop there, with the invention of internet shopping, after Black Friday there is the one and only CYBER MONDAY sales! Those are the leading sales, at least in America, maybe elsewhere too!

But, where are the Rosh Hashanah sales, or the Yom Kippur sales, hey anyone ever noticed a Ramadan sale?  I haven’t seen one Diwali sale either!

Why is it that only the Presidents get sales, or the Christian holidays?  Come on don’t people get gifts during the eight days of Chanukah?  Really – there’s no market for gift giving on that one?  Traditionally, aren’t kids supposed to get gifts for each day of Chanukah and then there’s one big gift?

There’s an Easter sale – gotta get those hats folks!

Seriously, Easter isn’t a gift giving day, nor is President’s Day so why the big sales?  Commercialism?

Does that mean that Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur Ramadan and Diwali aren’t big commercial holidays?

Why have certain holidays been diminished to just sale days instead of the traditional honoring of the holiday?

What’s wrong with this picture folks; when buying is more celebrated than the tradition?

Oh, yes, you are buying yourself a gift the big flat screen TV, because Santa can’t get it for you, nor can the Easter Bunny – hmmm.

Well, my birthday is October 15th  — where’s my sale day?

Holidays should not be celebrated by how much one can purchase, it should be celebrated by your faith, the tradition and the meaning of it – not by the dollar.

Valentine’s is a big SALE time – it has been demoralized by the greed of the companies, and for that matter, so are the other holidays.  Seriously, it’s never too late to write about the greed of companies to line their pockets with gold at the expense of the populace.

It’s just darn wrong!

So folks, next time on Valentine’s Day or any other big time celebrated holiday, why not make your loved one a gift, a card, something from your heart instead of your pocket.  It will make for a sweeter Valentine.


I never really liked…

How many times have we said “I never really liked” a particular person or persons?  The strange thing is the illusion of assuming that we are liked and the other person isn’t.  Ego.

 Yes folks our Ego keeps us thinking that we are liked.

 This isn’t about the Ego.

 The one realistic truth is that it is harder to like someone than to love them.

 It’s hard to find someone that we like all of their traits.  Of course, like any relationship, there is a honeymoon phase; however, after spending lots of time within the relationship we find that there are some characteristics that just don’t appeal to us; or isn’t our mirror image (Ego). 

 Quite frankly, we all overlook our own faults; which make us seem perfect in our rosy colored eyes.

 Yet, we  might dislike someone but love them to death; they are the most incredible creatures we’ve met, but there’s still a thingy that doesn’t sit well within our own personality about theirs, and it’s okay, because we love them.

 Eventually, with the dislike of a person, we ease way from them, in little circular movements – we eventually spiral out of their lives.

 Wait, but what about our family – do we spiral out of their lives too?

 Yes, we do.  It’s not as obvious, but eventually, we start having less and less interaction with them.  It’s a little hard with siblings and parents, but it’s done.  The crazy thing is we don’t like to tell our family what it is about them that annoys us. 

I remember a conversation with my brother and he was referring to one of our siblings.  He said he was just fed-up and he was a grown man and would say and do as he chose because at his age, he was tired of trying to make everyone happy and if they didn’t like it f-them!  This sibling like the rest of us, is controlling and would like things her way; but the reality is – no.  You know what, my brother and sister love each other terribly and they would jump in front of a bullet for each other.  My brother lives in the outer area of New Jersey far away from the rest of the family in Brooklyn.  We rarely see him and he has spiraled out of our lives, but still circles around because of our mother.  Eventually, I am sure it will get less frequent; that’s the reality.

 Never really liking someone is not a problem, because we don’t have to completely disregard them if they are important in our lives.  What we learn is that in all relationships, we grow and move on.  We will meet people or family members that don’t really have traits that appeal to us; so we take the higher road, look beyond and realize even we have faults that aren’t liked by many; but at least we will always be loved.